Instead, make sure you have a life outside of your man. It will make your life more interesting as well. When he asks what you’ve been up to, you’ll have something interesting to share. If he is career-minded, ask him how he’s work is going and cheer him on from the sidelines.

You’re not thinking about an ex.

Whatever the case may be, you can overcome your obstacles. Even if you’ve been burned repeatedly or have a poor track record when it comes to dating, these tips can help put you on the path to finding a healthy, loving relationship that lasts. Katie is a writer and translator with a focus on travel, self-care and sustainability.

How I tell the guy I dating that I do like him, but it’s hard to see a future for us?

I hope these 30 signs will help you understand whether you really like him or not. A confident woman who takes the lead can be very attractive to some men. Men like to receive compliments just as much as women do, so making the first move is quite a big step in letting him know that you’re interested in him. Take the example of female-led relationships, something which has increased as women have become more empowered over the years. A sure way to know if you really like him is when you don’t want to waste time faffing around, you just want to be with him.

Unfortunately, game playing in dating happens a lot. It can be simple like not returning texts until a day or two have passed or leading someone on when you aren’t really that interested in them. All of this is a big indicator that you want to build something significant with this guy. If you were only in it because you like the idea of him or you’re just looking for attention, his friends and family probably won’t be very high on your priority list. Do you still have dating apps on your phone? Do you still agree to meet new guys through friends?

When a guy is in the late 20s, he’s (likely) trying hard to establish himself in his career. Maybe he has become more vulnerable around you and all of these feelings are bubbling up that he isn’t comfortable with. If he’s like other guys, then before he met you he was probably spending countless hours hanging out with the boys. That might not be you, but if he feels that it’s moving too fast then he might be feeling intimated by that pace. In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

Before being published, she was a ghostwriter for ten years, writing close to 100 books for clients and thousands of articles. What she loves are dinosaurs and vampires and what she hates most of all is walking down into a dark basement. Kimberly wouldn’t last five minutes in one of her books. Laughing together will also get you through the inevitable tough times of your relationship. “If [they] already find you funny early on, they likely think you’re special.”

You’ve been suggesting some quirky, imaginative dates for the two of you. The sex, if you’ve gotten that far, is great. But you’re not ringing him up or messaging him just for more of the same. Your friends can tell how much you like this guy, even if you’re still unsure. He’s become a big part of your life, and if you really like him, you want it to stay that way.

In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives. The kicker is that a man will act distant when he doesn’t feel like your everyday hero. The more time he spends with you, the more he’ll understand that his freedom actually isn’t being compromised. It may take him longer to process these emotions than you might expect. Women are generally a lot more in touch with their feelings than men.

But if you want him to go shopping, walk the dog, help the kids with their homework and see your mother for dinner. Then it’s very likely he’ll forget most of these things later on. And it’s a much more efficient way to do it. And just to clarify… That doesn’t mean that I’m saying that a guy should never be alone or needs a woman to be happy with himself.

The man who doesn’t want to take you out of the shell doesn’t know you’re a trophy to be flaunted and taken care of for a lifetime. Letting you decide all the way could mean apathy. Is he really interested in what you guys are sharing your moments together? This kind of deception should give you the signal that this guy must have different levels of loving, which, logically speaking, is impossible, because true love can’t be measured. He can’t win you by convincing you he loved his ex but he loves you more or in a more special way. Does your guy mention parties and events but then doesn’t bother to invite you to them?

If so, this could be a sign that you’re not really interested in him. There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. And it’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain why men fall in love and who they fall in love with. Don’t make your search for a relationship the center of your life. Concentrate on activities you enjoy, your career, health, and relationships with family and friends.

And you might think that it’s up to him to “woo” you anyway, so it shouldn’t matter how you behave. You might not think that you’re acting a little cold to him, but you’d be surprised. If you think that might be the case, then I can guarantee you that he might be scared about falling for you. Guys are actually easily intimidated by an attractive woman.

Which makes men think much more simplistic and logically than women do. Why some guys always have to be “the man in the room”, or win over other men. It’s often stupid, meaningless and even ridiculous at times. That’s why relationships where both partners have time to themselves are the ones who thrive together.

Just because he is acting distant doesn’t mean he doesn’t want a relationship with you. So if you think he might be acting distant because things are going so fast, take a moment to let him know that you’re okay with going slower. Even in committed relationships, nobody wants to be the partner that is falling in love much harder. When you’re dating a guy who has been hurt in the past by a crazy bitch, it’s all about making him feel safe and secure in the relationship.